The moment my life changed

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I was 36 weeks pregnant, due to give birth on or before April 15, 2009 when my water broke. We called our OB/GYN who advised us to go to the hospital immediately.

My husband rushed me to the hospital and during the ride, I could feel labor pains at regular intervals. When we arrived at the Emergency Room at 6:30 a.m., my husband had to leave me to park the car. I was asked to seat on a wheelchair and brought to the Delivery Room. Inside the Delivery Room, as I was lying down waiting for my OB/GYN and my husband, I was being asked all these questions while I was trying to cope with the contractions that were becoming more frequent. Mind you, it was hard to concentrate!

It happened so quick that my OB/GYN almost did not make it!

March 12, 2009, at exactly 7:14 in the morning, I became a mother to a 5.6 pound baby boy. We did not take any birthing or parenthood seminars prior to giving birth so I had no expectations and absolutely no idea how having a baby will change my life but the moment I felt my baby came out and heard his cries, I knew that everything will be different from that day on.

Giving birth, based from my experience, was a “walk in the park”. I guess you can say I was one of the lucky ones.

But breastfeeding and taking care of my baby was not. That’s a reality that new mothers realize during the first or second week of the baby.

My first born, Tristan, came out a month before he was due. From 2.5 kg at birth, he dropped to 2 kg in his first week due to the fact that he was only drinking colostrum for a week and the actual breastmilk came out only after a week. I was just lucky because my pediatrician is a breastfeeding advocate and she taught me everything I needed to learn at that time. My husband was very supportive and would encourage me to continue breastfeeding even if my baby was crying his heart out at 3 in the morning and I felt like crying and giving up.

First time mothers, especially those who have no experience with babies, would feel overwhelmed with the amount of responsibility that having a child entails.  New born babies demand so much time and attention that a new mother would not even have the time to eat properly or even enjoy a 10 minute me-time.  It takes time to get used to the changes a new baby brings to the new parents but once a routine is established, taking care of the baby becomes manageable.

Knowing that you are entirely responsible for caring and raising another individual will make you realize a lot of things.  Some of which I have listed below:

1.  You will think more about the future particularly the future of your child.
 
2. You will learn to become more selfless and would always think about what your child needs before you can even think about your own needs.
 
3.  You would want to give only the best for your family thus making changes to make sure that they are given the best.
 
4.  You will realize that the gift of time is the most important gift you can give your child. 
 
5.  Becoming a parent is hard work, it gets tiring sometimes but a glimpse of a smile makes you forget how tired you are.
 
It is indeed true when they said that when you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.
 
Everyday since the day I became a mother is a challenge.
Everyday since the day I became a mother is a discovery of all the wonderful and not-so-wonderful things about motherhood.
But everyday since I became a mother, I feel blessed and thankful to be given the opportunity to nourish, protect, teach and nurture my children to their full potential.
 

My life may have changed forever but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

How I was raised by my mother

My mother recently celebrated her 70th Birthday.  So I find it fitting that I write something about the most important woman in my life.

My mother got married at the age of 22 to my father who is 10 years her senior.  They came from the same province and growing up, my mother came to know my father because her sister married my father’s brother.  Technically, they became family through their siblings.

Nine months after they got married, she gave birth to their first baby boy and for the next six years, three more boys followed. I was born seven years after the last boy.

My mother stayed home for 16 years and during the 60s, 70s and 80s, staying at home to raise the children was a normal thing.   They did it because it was expected of them and working outside the home was not the norm that majority of women  followed.  My mother had help of course,  taking care of four boys and one girl was not an easy task.

During those days, it was quite normal for a family to have more than four kids.. Some even have as many as a dozen!  Mothers back then can find as many help as they wanted but oftentimes, they raised their kids on their own.    It was not easy but they managed.

Nowadays, having  one or two children is sometimes more than enough.   Very seldom will you hear that a couple has more than three.  And those couples who have more than four children are considered as super parents.  Why super parents?   Everything is expensive these days.  Giving birth, immunization, daily expenses. Let us not forget that you can’t just put them in one corner, you have to teach each child, watch over them and make important decisions for them. Sending your child to a school that will provide quality education is not as cheap as before.   Finding help is not as easy as before.  With today’s technology, lifestyle  and work schedule, raising kids have become harder.

Some may wonder how my parents, particularly my mother, did it…  raising five God-fearing children who all have college degrees…

I think its about knowing your priorities and knowing how to balance ones time without sacrificing your time with the most important people in your life – your FAMILY.

Like I mentioned earlier, my mother stayed home for 16 years after getting married.  She devoted all her time to raising her children while taking care of the home and making sure that my father will have a happy and comfortable home to go home to.  She started working when I was two years old but she was always there, she still spent most of her time with me and my brothers.  Her work did not require her to be in the office the whole day, hence, she can easily adjust her day to make sure that before she goes to work, all our needs were taken care of.  I guess we were also lucky because at that time, we live in our ancestral house with my uncle, aunt (my parents’ siblings) and their family and my aunt was a stay-at-home mom who was always there for me and my brothers.

I remember in grade school, my mother never failed to pick up my father from his office every single day.  Some days, she’ll bring us along but to my recollection, they would always go home early, and always together. She also likes bringing me to Central Market in Manila (famous during my time) to buy whatever we needed – food, clothing or anything for our home.  There were no big shopping malls back then and so, if we needed something we went to Central Market or Quiapo.

In high school, my mother and I would often go out on shopping dates.   She would always pick me up from school then we would go to a mall near my father’s office or to our favorite shopping mall in Greenhills.   She would refer to our dates as “window shopping” dates for the reason that we would not always buy but would just check out the items being sold in case we have money to buy them in the future.    If we don’t have a date, I would always go home after school with my friends in tow and my mother, whenever she’s home, would make sure that we are all fed and taken care of.  She was a friend, not just to me, but to my High School friends as well.

Throughout the years, my mother never failed to make her presence known in every aspect of our lives.  She would be actively involved in whatever her children are interested in.  My father was always busy at work but during weekends, he would make up for the lost time.  Sunday was always family day – Church and lunch or dinner out.

I would not deny that my brothers are all Mama’s Boys and I am a Mama’s Girl.  Our mother will always be the most influential person in our lives.  My father would often joke that if ever they get separated, only my 2nd brother would go with him and that is because my 2nd brother would feel sorry for him.

Now that I am a mother, I appreciate more the choices my mother made to make sure that all her children grew up to be responsible individuals.  My brothers and I are not perfect and we will never be but our parents taught us lessons that we hope to impart to our children.   

Lessons on love, devotion, sacrifice and the importance of being present in your children’s lives – no matter how old they may be.

The 3Cs of Life…

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For the longest time, I have been contemplating on starting a blog to document my journey as a mother – and I must point out that it is a journey worth taking.  I have two children, a kindergartner and a toddler, who are my life and the source of my happiness.

As mothers, we are faced with CHOICES, CHANCES and CHANGES every single minute of everyday.

When a woman becomes a mother,  she will always consider the effect her choices will have on her children and will always choose what she thinks is best for them.

Motherhood changed my priorities, my beliefs, basically how I live my life.

When I was still single, I can go out anytime I want, go anywhere I want to, buy anything I desire, make my own decisions because I am not accountable to anyone (except my parents and boyfriend ), in short, I had freedom to do what I wanted to without regard for the consequences.

Now that I am a wife and a mother, I have to always consider my husband and my children because every Choice I make and every Chance I take will not only Change my life but the lives of my family as well.

This blog is about the 3Cs of my life, particularly my life as a mother.

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